The Language of Emotional Energy

~ claire ballardie

The Language of Emotional Energy

 Does your body speak to you? Do you listen when it does?

Do you ever have a ‘gut feeling’ about someone? A sense of joy perhaps, of feeling a connection with someone, but you don’t know why? Or perhaps you meet someone that you take an instant dislike to, a sense of foreboding? Emotional energy is created from the effect of your personal life experience.

 

The energy fuelling our emotion response is created by our nervous system. We may describe this as a ‘vibe’ or a ‘gut feeling’. We may meet someone who makes us feel safe, and calm, an instinct that we can trust them. Alternatively, someone may ‘gives us the creeps’, a sense that we need to steer clear of them. Emotional energy fuels joy, positivity, or is the driving force behind anger.

 

We can also connect with others with our emotional energy, by sensing what the other person feels, or needs in that moment. This is where compassion and empathy come in.

Energetic sensitivity

Having energetic awareness (mindfulness) is about noticing how your own emotional energy is at any given moment, in response to other people, or outside influences. It is about sensing what you, or the other person, needs. Sensitivity to this energetic response brings you in touch with your emotions, how you feel. Your ‘energy field’ can protect you if you feel afraid, a shield against unwelcome intrusions.

Energetic sensitivity enables us to be more aware of how we feel emotionally in the moment, in any situation we find ourselves in.

Intuition

Intuition is the ability to sense something, to respond instinctively, without the process of conscious thought. Our body lets us know something is amiss with physical sensations, such as a ‘gut reaction’ a knot in your stomach.

Trusting our intuition comes from developing energetic sensitivity. We become aware of emotion in others, if someone is tense, or relaxed and calm.

How emotional energy works for you

Giving off negative energy, a ‘keep away vibe’ , in situations you may find challenging, such as in a crowded room, will let others know you feel uncomfortable, with out uttering a word.

You can give off positive energy if you feel safe, confident. Being in the presence of someone who has a calming energy can give you a sense of safety, that it is OK to relax.

Paying attention to your own energetic responses, and those from other people, helps you to negotiate the world of connection to others, on your own terms. This can give you a sense of self-worth, confidence, and feeling comfortable in your own skin.

As a psychotherapist, I can work with you to find balance with your own  emotionally energy.

Contact me for more information.

The Countryside Counsellor

~ claire ballardie

The Countryside Counsellor

Living and working in the countryside, I fully understand that rural life is not as idyllic and easy as people can think.  Solo working can be lonely, with no-one to share your fears and concerns and comes with a whole range of stressful situations.

Counselling with horses Anxiety

With long term stress, anxiety can take hold, affecting your self-confidence and self-worth. Feeling scared is hard to admit to yourself, but it has a far-reaching effect on handling and riding horses and other animals, and affect personal relationships..

Depression

As an equestrian professional myself for many years, I understand this world and how tough it can be, especially in the long, cold and dark winter months. Long days with little rest can have a negative affect on mood and wellbeing.

Bereavement

Losing a beloved horse or pet can be devastating, as can taking the decision to end their life if they are suffering. Letting go is so difficult, and finding support through this dreadful experience really helps.

Coping with Injury

Personal injury is common, and can be hard to deal with if you are a fit and active person. Physical jobs such as vets, farriers, farmers, horse trainers, for example, demand physical fitness and stamina: injury can knock this for six, and the mental impact of not being able to do what you need be very stressful.

I offer counselling in Market Lavington.

contact me for details.

Relaxation

~ claire ballardie

What is relaxation?

  • The ability to rest and recovery after work, physical effort, or mental challenges.
  • Doing something that you enjoy, for pleasure.
  • Finding a sense of peace, of fulfillment.
  • Feeling calm, safe, comfortable.

 

Why is it good for me?

  • It calms the nervous system, reducing stress, anxiety.
  • It slows your beathing and heart rate,
  • It reduces stress, improves sleep
  • It helps you to feel better about yourself, lifts your mood.
  • It improves rational thought, reducing the ‘what ifs’ and worries in your mind.

 

 

 

How do I relax?

  • Pay attention to your breath, focusing on calm, rhythmic breathing.
  • Send this calmness to where you feel tense in your body.
  • Move gently, stretching your muscles to shift tension.
  • Visualise a peaceful scene, imagining you are in a safe, calming place.

Summary

We can relax when we feel safe, and able to let go of our fears, our worries.

Relaxation is essential- without the ability to relax, we live in a permanent state of anxiety, you have need to ‘keep busy’.

So, let go of what you think you need to do right now, and just be present, pay attention to yourself. Feel safe, calm and take that deep breath right now. Relax.

Self Awareness

~ claire ballardie

Self awareness

How well do you know yourself? How do feel emotion in your body?Developing self-awareness helps to identify emotional triggers which cause anxiety. Once we notice what happens to us, both mentally and physically, we can start to  learn how to keep calm and focused on what we need to, improving our ability to concentrate. This in turn improves self-confidence and feeling more able to cope with daily life. Self-awarness can improve relationships, noticing  how we respond to other people and why.

In counselling, self-awareness can be helped by the following:

 

  • Talking therapy
  • Body awareness
  • Meditation
  • Relaxation and breathing techniques..
  • Learning more about yourself as a person.

Venturing into the realms of self-awareness takes bravery. Are you brave enough to open the door into the world of self-discovery?

Contact me for more details about how psychotherapy can help you..

 

Depression

~ claire ballardie

What is Depression?

With depression, you may have been feeling lonely or withdrawn for a while, and not been able to ‘snap out of it’. Daily life becomes a chore, and simple things become a challenge. It may be difficult to socialise, and things that you enjoy doing lose their appeal.

How does it start?

Depression may start from a life event such as bereavement, or build up through lifestyle or relational difficulties. You may suffer from a loss of confidence and self-esteem, and lose interest on yourself: how you dress, and care for yourself. Feeling tearful and irritable, a lack of patience, a sense of frustration are all common signs of depression. Life is no fun, and it is difficult to lift your mood.

How can counselling help?

Counselling can unlock the door into understanding what contributes to depression. It is about being able to talk about your experiences, without being judged, or feeling embarrassed or awkward. Depression affects people on different ways- you are unique, and important, and deserve a chance to feel better.

NHS Definition of Depression

  • feeling hopeless and helpless
  • having low self-esteem
  • feeling tearful
  • feeling guilt-ridden
  • feeling irritable and intolerant of others
  • having no motivation or interest in things
  • finding it difficult to make decisions
  • not getting any enjoyment out of life

If you would like to talk,, I will listen. Please contact me.